Closing the gap.

There’s who you are.

And then, there’s who you want to be.

In between, there’s a gap that might feel very wide, or very small, depending on what’s going on in your life and the choices you make in response.

Recently, a friend of mine decided to stop drinking. He realized that the gap between who he was and who he wanted to be was feeling uncomfortably wide — and alcohol wasn’t helping to make it any smaller. So he stopped. It wasn’t easy, but he did it, and he’s feeling proud and excited. Amazing things are happening in his life now. There’s fresh energy and momentum. Big opportunities. The gap is becoming smaller.

Maybe alcohol is not an issue for you. Maybe for you, it’s excessive junk food, excessive television or video games, excessive email, or being “addicted” to over-helping or over-scheduling or over-working, to a point where you’re left feeling utterly depleted, resentful — feeling like someone you never wanted to be.

How big is the gap between who you are, right now, and who you want to be?

Which types of choices are helping you to close the gap? Which choices are not?

Which types of choices feed you strength, power and confidence, and make you feel like “your best”? Which choices have the opposite effect?

I am grateful for the people in my life who ask themselves these tough questions, who make brave adjustments, and who invite me to examine my own life in the same way.

To you, reading these words on a screen somewhere in the world, I hope your gap is feeling very small today. And if not, I hope you’re able to dig deep — just like my friend did — and do something to change that.

It is never too late to try something new, change an old habit, or reach out for help.

Today is not over yet.