Write from a full cup.
Not every writer wants to be famous, get a book deal, or sell tons of products.
Some writers just want to get noticed — and feel helpful.
These kinds of writers think & say things like:
“I’m not writing to make money. I don’t necessarily want to get published in big magazines. I don’t care about any of that. But when I post something on my blog, I want feedback. I want comments. That’s all I need. I just need to know that somebody is reading… that somebody is getting value from my words.”
I can relate.
I don’t write just to amuse myself. I write because I want to help. I write to make a difference.
You might feel the same way.
The problem, though, is when you start feeling like you “need” feedback, comments, clicks, likes, shares or gushing emails full of praise in order to feel good about what you’ve written.
(That’s like needing somebody to tell you “you’re beautiful” in order to feel beautiful. Relying on that kind of external validation… just doesn’t work.)
You can’t write from an emotional deficit and then expect “comments” to fill your cup.
I can tell you from personal experience…
It’ll never happen.
Because no matter how much love you get, it will never be enough.
You must write from a full cup.
Do whatever it takes to feel “full”. Full of love. Full of confidence. Full of self respect. Full of excitement. Full of generosity.
Write from that place. Already full. So much to share. So much to give.
And then — if you happen to receive any external praise — your cup will begin to overflow.
But you don’t “need” that praise. You’re already full. The overflow is just a happy surprise.
I know you might be thinking, “Yeah, but, still… I don’t want to work hard on a piece of writing and then have NOBODY read it! How can I possibly feel OK about that?”
The irony is this:
When your cup is already full, your writing tends to get… better.
Stronger. Clearer. More helpful. More generous.
When your cup is already full, your writing tends to magnetize even more of the readers that you want to reach.
It may take time. One reader today. Two readers tomorrow. Ten devoted fans, next month. Ten thousand, five years from today.
Slowly but surely, people will respond to the fullness & generosity that they sense in your words.
So, try not to write from a place of “hungriness” or “need”.
Don’t write to get.
Write to give.
Don’t write because you feel empty.
Write because you are full.