How to consult with a mystic (… and ask really good questions.)

I’ve had dozens of fascinating conversations & consultations with mystics, over the years.

Psychics. Witches. Readers. Intuitives. Angel whisperers. Hey, some of my best friends are Oracles!

I’ve learned that when it comes to seeking guidance from a professional mystic, framing your questions in the right way can make all the difference.

Here are my tips on how to have a highly productive conversation with a mystic:

1. Avoid “Yes” or “No” questions.

“Will I meet the love of my life, this year?” = not a great question.

“What are some things I could focus on to raise my chances of attracting an amazing partner, this year?” = a much better question.

“I’ve been struggling to meet people. What might be holding me back from connecting with someone amazing?” = a great question, too.

I’ve yet to meet a mystic who believes that the future is “set is stone”. Most of the mystics I know believe that your future is entirely up to you. Yes, certain opportunities may be better than others, and certain dates may be more auspicious, but at the end of the day, you call the shots, which means… it’s impossible for a mystic to give you a definitive “yes” or “no” answer on most topics.

As The Tarot Lady likes to say, “The cards tell a story… but YOU write the ending”.

2. Give options & ask for a forecast.

“I’m so lost! What should I do with my career? ” = not a great question.

“I’m at a crossroads in my career. Here are two options I’m considering: [describe both, simply]. Which option feels like a stronger path for me?” = a way better question.

Mystics tend to shine when presented with 2 or 3 options that they can respond to.

A channeler, for example, could do a quick check-in with her spirit guides to get a “vibe” on each path. (“Option One looks fraught with complications & friction… but Option Two looks like pure sexy-town…”)

3. In the end, trust your “hut”.

(Hut = my personal term for “heart and gut”.)

Just like there are terrific car mechanics and shady ones, there are terrific mystics… and there are hot messes. Choose wisely.

But even if I had the greatest mystical adviser on the planet, I would never, EVER do something solely because a mystic told me so.

It’s imperative to trust your instincts.

Mystics can help confirm what you already know (building your self-confidence, so that it’s easier to take action).

Mystics can help illuminate possibilities you hadn’t considered (or blindspots you’ve been overlooking).

Mystics can help articulate the potential pros & cons of the various paths you might choose.

But mystics are not there to “tell you what to do”.

That’s up to you.

To your magical life…

If you’re curious, here are a few of my favorite mystics on the planet. I’m probably forgetting a few… forgive me.

Theresa (the gold standard for tarot). Paige (adorable & full of mischief. plays the ukelele, too). Heidi (she reads the stars & writes poetry that wakes up your heart). Ellen (she’s a career strategist & resume editor with a secret weapon: astrology). Laurel (she talks to angels & they talk back). Dyana (she’s an oracle: ask her to dream for you). Pace (she helped me think about “god” in a whole new way). Kris (she has conversations with mermaids. see also: bad-ass drummer). Catherine (she might not consider herself to be a “mystic,” but I do). The AstroTwins (stylish, jargon-free horoscopes from identical twin sisters. swoon).