30+ mantras for people who over-work, over-commit, and are generally terrified of “missing out.”

 
 

FOMO = Fear Of Missing Out.

 
It’s a serious cultural crisis — and it’s reflected in the way we eat (with cellphones blinking), sleep (with our laptops, nestled into the covers like digital lovers), work (with our inboxes & Twitter feeds open, at all times), commit (or rather, over-commit), and play (with one eye perpetually scanning the room, for something … better.)

FOMO is the polar opposite of FOCUS.

 
It’s rooted in the nefarious belief that this moment, right now, in all its splendor, with what we’ve currently got … just. isn’t. good. enough.

What would happen if … we collectively liberated ourselves from the painful grip of FOMO-itis?

 
Even just for a single hour — say, starting right now?

Let’s do it. I’ll join you.

Here’s a collection of mantras to help alleviate the fear of missing out … of needing to do more … and of not being amazing enough.

Choose one, or say them all. Repeat as needed. Onward, with ease!

 

30 mantras you can say to yourself …

 
❤ I am here now. I’ll be there, later.

❤ I’ve done enough for today.

❤ I’ve done (more than) enough for today.

❤ I’ve chosen to be here, now. And I made a really good choice.

❤ I could unplug for 100 years and not miss a single thing.

❤ I am very busy … at staying un-busy.

❤ I am a messenger of ease, in an un-easy world.

❤ I am leaving the world in better condition than I found it.

❤ I am mastering the art of supreme focus.

❤ I am exploring the science of play.

❤ I am living proof that less is more.

❤ I am a role model for a resentment-free life!

❤ Mr. Rogers would be proud of me, today.

❤ The biggest gift I can give to myself (and the world) is my well-rested body & mind.

❤ The greatest gift I can give to myself (and the world) is my own undivided attention.

❤ It is impossible for me to “miss out.” There are (more than enough) miracles to go ’round.

❤ Everybody needs me right now (AND) Nobody needs me right now.

❤ Everything needs to be finished (AND) Nothing needs to be finished.

❤ Nobody benefits from my exhaustion (BUT) Everyone benefits from my happiness.

❤ The Internet is my friend & my tool — not my home.

❤ My calendar is beautifully full, but not busy. My job is to keep it that way.

❤ Being quiet & still is the kindest thing I can do.

❤ When I rest, unplug & play, I give other people permission to do the same.

❤ When I let emails sit in my inbox — instead of answering them instantly — I am teaching patience to others.

❤ When I move at a slower, easier pace, I am modeling compassion for others.

❤ When there’s less on my plate, my true brilliance has space to emerge.

❤ Every time I say NO, somebody else gets to say YES.

❤ Every time I say NO, my life gets lighter & brighter.

❤ Focus is such a flattering color.

❤ Ease looks good on me.

 

… + 1 mantra you can say to somebody else:

 
❤ The only thing on my to-do list … is you.

 

What do YOU do when you’re feeling over-stretched, over-worked, over-booked and / or under-focused?

Breathwork? Yoga? Cartwheels? Candles? Magic? Mantras? Share the love, if you please.

 

XO.


 
 

Comments

I am taking a moment my inbox doesn’t think I have, to print this puppy out. Could not be more relevant on this Monday morning!

Hannah on Mar 4, 2013 Reply

Yes! I’m doing the same.

“Every time I say NO, someone else can say YES,” & other mantras for those scared of missing out. http://t.co/z6OdCxS4vZ @Alex_Franzen #fomo

Love these – thanks Alex! Are you coming to England any time soon?

Printing, sharing, and smiling with ease… thank you for this soul nourishing goodness.

Thank you! When your name appears in my inbox, I know the time spent reading what you’re sharing will inspire. My go-to, my MO, when it’s too busy (and when it isn’t) is meditation (used to be yoga, which is still vital, but meditation is proving to be the almighty healer). I sit quietly, attending to my breath while monkey mind loses its momentum, and because I’m a miracle-minded gal, I rely on this prayer: What would you have me do? Where would you have me go? What would you have me say, and to whom?
The insights are supremely compassionate :)

Love this A! I try to tell myself: If I was there, I couldn’t be here!

This. Is. Perfect.

You can’t imagine how timely this is. A good friend of mine and I were talking the other day about all the things I have on my plate (my diary is totally full at the weekend, every weekend, until the end of May), and she gently said to me “Didn’t you say you were going to scale back this year?”. You’ve inspired me all over again to do it- I will be making some of these mantras into art, and sticking them up on my wall.

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Like Yoga, S-T-R-E-T-C-H those moments of not doing, between tasks. Enjoy the texture of a balance of doing and not doing. The play of contracts lends such richness to our lives! Thank you Alex!

Betsy McDowell on Mar 4, 2013 Reply

Mantra for today: I am very busy at staying un-busy. Thank you @Alex_Franzen for helping those of us who have FOMO: http://t.co/T5OXAl5PGn

I have to say that you not only helped me, but all my future relationships and endeavors. Seriously! What great advice for the FOMO’s of the world. My fav: ❤ It is impossible for me to “miss out.” There are (more than enough) miracles to go ’round.

xo

Kat

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Music always soothes me. There’s a beat for every kind of mood and then I let my body do the rest (praise to the one and only Sheila Kelley’s S Factor ;)

PS Love how thinking of Mr Rogers say “Hello Neighbor” makes me smile. It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood!

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LOVE the ‘messenger of ease’! I’m a recovering people pleaser and definitely finding that exercising my ‘no’ muscle reaps rewards.

My favourite ever TEDx talk is by Jon Jandai – ‘Life is easy – why do we make it so hard.’ Jon is a farmer from NE Thailand: have a look http://tedxtalks.ted.com/video/TEDxDoiSuthep-Jon-Jandai-Life-i

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Love it! Thank you – am posting several on my fridge as soon as I’m finished typing!

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Yes, yes, yes. We are on the same team. I would like the whole world to go to a four day week. And lay down. And stare at the clouds. Yay!

I feel like you wrote this post just for me! Thank you for these awesome mantras. Totally printing them all!

Chivon, I feel the same! Alex is a strange mind-reading genius.

Awesome post Alex. I’ve been in a rut all day today, and then I stumbled onto your site and this post turned things right around. I need to put this list above my desk and focus on one of these every day. Sigh, feeling more at peace now, thanks. xo

FOMO – hah! I have been suffering from this since childhood. Thanks for giving it a name and an acronym! This will help me. Thx Alex.

You are amazing Alexandra! Seriously a breath of fresh air, and I read a lot of wellbeing / creativity / personal growth blogs. I’m actually printing this! ( For real, I always tell myself I’m going to print pages from blogs but never do – this is going on my wall so I see it every day!)

Also when I’m super stressed out ( ah, like this week / always) I do something which makes me feel cared for and loved – I book myself for a manicure which helps my nails grow, I’ll get up early so I have time to do yoga and make a leisurely, yummy brekky or I’ll buy myself a little treat that makes life more comfortable – i.e. today I got amazing honey showr gel from Lush – I will actually be excited to wake up before work tomorrow so I can try it in the shower!)

This is such good stuff.

Taylor on May 16, 2013 Reply

“My calendar is beautifully full, but not busy. My job is to keep it that way.”

Love that, thank you Alexandra!

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