“How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes!” –Maya Angelou
You said it, Maya.
True story: I have a full-tilt existential crisis, oh … every 6 months or so.
During those tumultuous times, I question my value, my skills, my impact on the world, my hair color, my skincare regime, my relationships, my life direction, my thinly-veiled sugar addiction, my (over)use of exclamation marks, my grammatical inadequacies, my limited upper-body strength … and more.
I’ve learned to honor each “existential crisis” for what it truly is —
an opportunity to remember who I am, and reveal who I’m becoming.
And when I find myself agonizing over my “values,” my “mission” and “what really matters,” I simply turn to my pantheon of heroes. They always remind me.
HERO WORSHIP: it’s a self-awareness & life direction JACKPOT!
Ready for a playful exercise?
It’s a classic: The Fantasy Dinner Party.
Here’s how it works: you get to invite up to 10 of your greatest heroes to an imaginary soirée.
But that’s just the beginning. Next: jot down a few reasons why each hero is invited — and what it says about you.
I’ll go first …
My Fantasy Dinner Party …
Guest #1: RuPaul | Drag queen, supermodel, singer & author
Why she’s invited: Whether she’s promoting her latest disco-fueled album (“AVAILABLE ON iTUNES!”) or hosting her latest reality showdown, her personal pride & conviction fill the whole room. Well, most of it. The rest is filled by her uh-mazing HAIR!
I adore Ru’s over-the-top charisma & unabashed self-promotion.
And while she could easily dominate the spotlight, every time, her whole raison d’être is to inspire greater confidence & self-appreciation in others, first.
As Ru always says: “If you can’t love yourself, how in the HELL you gonna love anybody else?”
What this says about me: I aspire to be a symbol of irrepressible confidence & over-the-moon self-expression. And: I want to inspire those qualities in other people, too. YAH!
Who’s invited to your fantasy dinner party — and why?
And — what does each guest say about YOU?
Speaking of fantasy invites …
A few wonths (that’s weeks + months, because my feeble mind cannot recall) ago, I was invited to speak at The Anti-Summit: a virtual event for creative misfits & rebels.
My talk — which goes live on November 5th — covers the dreaded Internet penis envy, the agony of over-comparison, and how to lift yourself out of a serious creative slump.
Ariana & Christina (The Anti-Summit co-creators) did a stellar job at keeping the conversation brisk, bubbly & deliciously surprising. If you’d like to download the goods, deffffinitely sign up at Anti-Summit.com. The rabble-rousing begins on October 15th. Oh HELL yes.