Does your LIFE have a THEME? (Want to find out?)

 

I believe every LIFE has a THEME — like a novel, a symphony, or a curated collection of art.

Your theme is an intricate composite of your family’s themes, your ancestors’ themes, your tribal-cave-man lineage, and your unique DNA. Stories, lessons, weaknesses + wishes. Percolating through the generations. Uniquely embodied … by YOU.

With every decision we make — in this lifetime — we’re just playing variations on a theme.

We learn the same lessons — over + over.
We teach the same lessons — over + over.
Our obstacles, talents + final-breath messages — they never (really) change.
They just reveal themselves, in new + unexpected ways. Like I said — variations on a theme.

It’s fascinating to percolate through your life + hunt for themes.

It’s a more than a playful exercise in self-discovery — it’s extremely practical.

Because once you’ve discovered your theme, you can tell your story. Your real story. The big story.
The story with universal resonance + impact. Not just what you’ve done + when, with whom — but why.

Some of my LifeThemes? Starry-eyed self-expression. Laser-lucid communication. Elastic resilience. Immersive devotion.

My biggest, most visceral theme? Supreme reinvention.

So. Want to discover your LifeTheme?

(I thought so.)

Let’s start with three elements, three questions — and a fill-in-the-blank statement.
I’ll prompt you along. Here we go …
 

Your Cellular Obstacles

Your CELLULAR OBSTACLES are the troubles + challenges that keep promenading into your life,
in different shapes + forms. Over + over + over.

Your worthy adversaries. Your all-too-familar arch-nemesi. That fear you just can’t shake. The mistakes you can’t help but make. The merry-go-round loop in your head. Oh. THIS again.

QUESTION: What are the lessons you can’t help but keep learning (and quite likely, teaching — through living example?)

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Your Magnetic Talents

Your MAGNETIC TALENTS are the big-money skills, easy-as-breathing abilities, natural gifts + visceral magnetism that you exude, when you’re operating at full capacity.

The stuff you’re freakishly good at. Your borderline-prodigy abilities. When you’re using your MAGNETIC TALENTS, you’re actively in LOVE with your work. (In other words, you’re a GENIUS.)

QUESTION: What are you freakishly good at / completely in love with / frequently praised for / undeniably skilled at?

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Your Final-Breath Battle Cry

Your FINAL-BREATH BATTLE CRY is the message or mission that you’d HOLLER into the ether, if you had 25 seconds to live.

QUESTION: If you had the entire WORLD tuned into you — broadcasting live, from a top-secret location — what would you want the human race to know / remember / change / release / revive / believe?

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Your LifeTheme Statement…

My CELLULAR OBSTACLES are: ________________________, ________________________ + ________________________.

And the biggest, most vital lesson that I’m destined to learn + re-learn in this lifetime is: ________________________________________________.

My MAGNETIC TALENTS are: ________________________, ________________________ + ________________________.

I put them to use — every day — by: ________________________________________________.

I hide them whenever I: ________________________________________________.

But I’m ready to come out + tell the world that I’m in wildly in LOVE with my ability to: ________________________________________________.

My FINAL-BREATH BATTLE CRY is: _____________________________________________________________________________.

Because I believe that: ________________________________________________, and I don’t want to die before reminding the world that: ________________________________________________.

My Life has a Theme. And if I had to synthesize it into single word (or two, or three), it would be: ________________________.
 

Want to share?

If you feel so inspired, I’d LOVE to see you share your LifeTheme in the comments —
or share fragments on Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram … y’know. The usual haunts.

Here’s to thematic revelation…

 

Comments

You are so interesting and awesome I can’t stand it!

My CELLULAR OBSTACLES are lack of control, worry + self doubt.
And the biggest, most vital lesson that I’m destined to learn + re-learn in this lifetime is that to gain control you must give up control.

My MAGNETIC TALENTS are: confidence , calmness + healthiness.
I put them to use — every day — by being my own cheerleader, smiling and eating well.
I hide them whenever I am faced with a new and unknown situation.
But I’m ready to come out + tell the world that I’m in wildly in LOVE with my ability to turn a sad situation into a positive one.

My FINAL-BREATH BATTLE CRY is don’t worry, be happy!
Because I believe that people become what they think of themselves and I don’t want to die before reminding the world that life is too short for worry.

My Life has a Theme. And if I had to synthesize it into single word, it would be: SMILE!

Lloyd on Aug 15, 2012 Reply

Ooh, girl! This is clairi-frying!
Cellular obstacles: not believing I know enough, thinking there’s not enough, trying to know what’s next. The vital lesson: I am enough. Enough to do whatever I was put here to do. (you too)
My magnetic talents are seeing the patterns, and seeing through them, so I can see and say exactly what you need, clarifying with and for you. Compassionate, cutting-the-crap-that’s-blinding-you communication. I use them when I write, when I listen, when I tune in and really listen to the person talking (from barista to mom, from friend to The Universe)
Battle-cry: You get to choose. In anything, you get to choose: your approach, your mood, your action, and no one knows better than you, right now. So: choose! Again and again! Learn what works and choose again! Learn, adapt, explore until even you believe you’re choosing right.
The big theme here: Trust yourself. You know plenty, you’ll learn more, you can see clearly, so choose with confidence and freedom and you.
*shivers!*

Tara on Aug 15, 2012 Reply

Hey Alexandra! I’ve devoured your offerings and delighted in your virtual presence for years, but I think this is my first time commenting. Thank you for creating this hub of yum! :] As for my life theme…

My cellular obstacles are self-doubt, valuing the perceptions of others more than my own, and timidity. The major lesson lapping my being every day is -> flourishing is dependent on my allowance. My magnetic talents are writing with style, unflinching articulation of emotion, and appreciating visual stimulation – especially subtle detail. I put them to use by waking up and engaging with the world. I hide them whenever I fear judgment, even though I’m in love with my ability to gracefully communicate my perspective. My final-breath battle cry is -> unfurl your imagination and create yourself. I believe by doing so you help manifest your best vision of the world. And I don’t want to die before reminding people to be kind to one another, whether or not our movements are alike. My life theme is -> create, for we are creators.

My CELLULAR OBSTACLES are: embracing being human, being in relationship + stand in my own power.

And the biggest, most vital lesson that I’m destined to learn + re-learn in this lifetime is: how to shine humble, but shine bright!

My MAGNETIC TALENTS are: getting to the heart of relationship dynamics, being helpful + sorting through ridiculous amounts of knowledge to the bottom line.

I put them to use — every day — by: writing at my blog and running my coaching business.

I hide them whenever I: don’t make a move because i’m being scared.

But I’m ready to come out + tell the world that I’m in wildly in LOVE with my ability to: help people get human with their partners and create the relationship they want.

My FINAL-BREATH BATTLE CRY is: it’s okay to love. it’s okay to get hurt. it’s okay to love again.

Because I believe that: anyone can build the right relationship, they just haven’t been taught how, and I don’t want to die before reminding the world that: they can do it.

My Life has a Theme. And if I had to synthesize it into single word (or two, or three), it would be: love & humanity.

I’m so excited by the discovery of this exercise.

My obstacles involve remembering these three things; my worth is not dependent on my title, I have to take action to get somewhere, I have a truly great life.

My magnetic talents are goal planning, observation, and caring for others. I use these when I plan my dreams and help others plan theirs, when I interact with the entire world and and I work closely with individuals. All three are used when I write.

If I could scream from the mountain tops one thing I would scream “IT’S UP TO YOU. IT’S YOUR LIFE SO TAKE CONTROL OF IT AND START LIVING.”

Through this exercise I had the profound discovery that the one word I would use to describe my life them is….’FREE’!

Sigh. Amazing insight here… I am printing this out so I can sit with it later. In a bath tub, if I can swing it.

What an eye-opening exercise! I’m emerging from the cocoon of a midlife meltdown, so this little self-exam shows me the colors of my wings…

Cellular Obstacles: enmeshment, over-responsibility, & retreating into discouragement.
The most vital lesson I’m destined to learn in this lifetime: to pace myself. Easy Does It.

Magnetic Talents: compassion, comprehension, & creativity.
I use them every day when I consider others & conform my approach to what they need. I hide these whenever I feel judged, criticized, or rejected.
I’m ready to come out & tell the world that I’m wildly in love with my ability to Celebrate Humanity– I can show others the little Divine Mirrors of our lives…our loves, our passions, our struggles & triumphs…each of us is a tiny reflection of the beauty & power of the Universe.

My Final-Breath Battle-Cry is: You are a Cosmic Artist– your Life is the canvas, & what you Love is the paint. Whether you roll, brush, fingerpaint, splatter, stipple, or paint-by-numbers–no matter how you play– it’s All Right… alright? Love is the beginning, the middle, and the end.

Thank you for this, Alex. You Rock!

Oh this exercise was completely delicious! Here’s what I came up with…

My Lifetheme Statement – a la Alexandra Franzen

My cellular obstacles are: sharing my voice, listening to my body and choosing ease. And the biggest, most vital lesson that I’m destined to learn and relearn in this lifetime is to surrender to this beautiful, messy, juicy, embodied experience of this thing called life.

My magnetic talents are: writing lyrical prose, making sense of stories and helping others to see and connect with the brilliance of their inner light. I put them to use – every day – by serving the ladies of my Goddess Guidance group. I hide them whenever I listen to self-fabricated stories that undermine my self-worth. But I’m ready to come out and tell the world that I’m wildly in love with my ability to evoke the body through poetry.

My final-breath battle cry is: mothering the self is an act of exquisite generosity. Because I believe that: self-acceptance breeds compassion, and I don’t want to die before reminding the world that, when you put yourself second, no-one comes first.

My life has a theme. And if I had to synthesize it into a single word (or two, or three), it would be: SACRED EMBODIMENT.

*Or*

LETTING THE SOFT ANIMAL OF MY BODY LOVE WHAT IT LOVES!

a resounding mhmm in my soul for this post!
Cellular Obstacles: not speaking up for myself and using my voice, getting into debt, worrying about being broke living in a scarcity mindset about money, creativity,etc.
Vital Lesson: Being true to myself keeps me in a constant flow of infinite abundance.

Magnetic Talents are ability to find inspiration in anything, singing/vocal abilities, and being open and sensitive to the world. I use them when I write, when I listen to people, and when I write songs and sing them. I hide them when I am an angry or really scared. I am ready to tell the world that I am wildly in love with my ability to capture raw, often buried emotions in the songs I write.

My final breath battle cry is Keep making choices and manifesting positivity because only love, not fear, exists in you. I believe that fear is an illusion that is not inside of us. I want to remind the world that You are your true self all of the time so believe what is telling you rather than stuff that is outside of you.

My Life Theme: Fearless Vulnerability. Whenever I choose love I show who I really am. When I do that I make choices that feel good and serve the world.

wow. that was just what I needed today. Thank you Ms. Franzen :-)

Hi there ! I’m a french 23 year old girl, and since I know your blog you’ve inspired me SO MUCH.This article is a piece of genius.

Here is the result of tonight’s introspection :

My CELLULAR OBSTACLES are: fear of failure, procrastinating + over thinking instead of doing.
And the biggest, most vital lesson that I’m destined to learn + re-learn in this lifetime is: success only comes with action.

My MAGNETIC TALENTS are: planning, learning + summarizing stuff.
I put them to use — every day — by: blogging on several subjects to help others learn & improve like I do.. I hide them whenever I am too lazy + busy procrastinating to do anything. But I’m ready to come out + tell the world that I’m in wildly in LOVE with my ability to help people learn stuff and improve their lives.

My FINAL-BREATH BATTLE CRY is: Nothing is more important than your well-being and your family & friends.
Because I believe that if you improve yourself you also improve others, and I don’t want to die before reminding the world that happiness is built by a lot of small steps you have to take every day.

My Life has a Theme. And if I had to synthesize it into single word (or two, or three), it would be: Kaizen = constant improvement.

THANK YOU for bringing me such clarity.

Wow. I didn’t have time for this right now (or so I thought) because I’m buried, but a little voice said, “Stop. Do it now.” So I did; my hand cramped writing. The answers poured out of me. All to get to this which is so simple and lovely and has been on the tip of my tongue and center of my soul for so long… almost expressed. My theme: Fearless, loving creation.

So grateful for you, Alex. You rock my personal evolution All. The. Time. xo

Wow! What a great process. Thanks Alexandra.

My CELLULAR OBSTACLES are people do the best they can, insatiable appetite, lying gets you nowhere.
And the biggest, most vital lesson that I’m destined to learn + re-learn in this lifetime is to be honest with myself and others. I am okay just the way I am.

My MAGNETIC TALENTS are: getting stuff done, creative problem-solving, and my intuition.
I put them to use — every day — by trusting my creative solutions to problems and making it happen.
I hide them whenever I assume others, and their ideas, are better than me/mine.
But I’m ready to come out + tell the world that I’m in wildly in LOVE with my ability to intuitively and creatively solve problems that support others with love.

My FINAL-BREATH BATTLE CRY is love yourself and then just love.
Because I believe that love can conquer all, and I don’t want to die before reminding the world that life is too short to hold onto anger and resentment. You need to let that shit go.

My Life has a Theme. And if I had to synthesize it into single word, it would be: Have faith.

Glenda on Aug 15, 2012 Reply

I think it is particularly telling that self-doubt is popping up for so many folks in the cellular obstacles. Also just feeling unsure, timid, like exposure will be a threat.

My cellular obstacles are: Overcoming doubts, blaming others for life difficulties when I should take more responsibility through my own choices, and thoroughly feeling loved and cared for by the universe instead of anxious, as if resources were scarce, and fearful.

My magnetic talents are: Beneficial botanical alchemy, artful communication, and realizing positive, progressive outcomes even in challenging circumstances.

I put them to use every day by reaching out directly to my clients, envisioning inventive, holistic ways to heal using plants ( and deliver the results of that vision to people ), and wrangling my business and home life towards sustainability and even abundance.

I hide them whenever I am faced with the issue of meeting/dealing with people in person. All the moxie I have online and in my craft falters when considering in-person interaction.

I’m ready to come out and tell the world that I’m wildly in LOVE with my ability to craft personalized beauty solutions and soulful, holistic life renovations that resonate with those seeking all that is good in life.

My Final Breath battle cry is: Realize that we are all pining inside for the loving vision of others. See what is valuable and beautiful in every person and help them lift that up. Everyone wants to be seen, and everyone wants to be recognized as enough. Start with you and begin living a litany of love.

My life has a theme and if I had to synthesize it into a single word or two or three it would be:
Choose to live the light that is in you.

wink wink! xoxo thanks for the fun! Made a great thinking opportunity while waiting for my giant batch of pasta sauce to simmer.
LOVE to all the other commenters…. So glorious to see you striving for your gifts and life missions as well.

I join you my fellows to say it our loud.

My CELLULAR OBSTACLES are hiding, hesitancy + apathy
And the biggest, most vital lesson that I’m destined to learn + re-learn in this lifetime is: to be bold and dare to step up / step out.

My MAGNETIC TALENTS are: dream championing, finding wonder + practical alchemy
I put them to use — every day — by being kind, listening deep + making art that remembers the simple magic.
I hide them whenever I think I should do it like someone else
But I’m ready to come out + tell the world that I’m in wildly in LOVE with my ability to uplift with muse-like re-membering.

My FINAL-BREATH BATTLE CRY is be bold – be you!
Because I believe that we are each a kaleidoscope of wonder and magic, and I don’t want to die before reminding the world that together we make a masterpiece.

My Life has a Theme. And if I had to synthesize it into single word (or two, or three), it would be: Practical Alchemy

Thank you Alex for your Starry-eyed self-expression. Laser-lucid communication.
I been lapping up the laser-lucid hoping for Supreme reinvention homeopathically :)

xxxxx

Cellular Obstacles: Fearing I will always disappoint people, or they will break my trust. Not taking the risk. Over-analyzing people and their feelings toward me.
Destined to learn – Inner peace via faith and trust in the Universe

My MAGNETIC TALENTS are: The ability to take whatever I am writing about and personalize it. Memory-keeper, weaver of personal reflection, storyteller. Conversing, dialogue, connecting with people.

My FINAL-BREATH BATTLE CRY Create, take care of one another and above all, love

because I believe life is too short to worry about piddly-nonsense. Self-expression, happiness and personal joy should have a higher premium in this world
I don’t want to die before reminding the world that every single living creature matters. You matter. I matter. We all matter.

My Life has a Theme. And if I had to synthesize it into single word (or two, or three)
Unity. Journey. Creation.

Obstacles
Anxiety, indecision, lack of attention, motivation and energy

Talents
Creative problem solving, boundlessly loving, empathetic

Battle Cry
The best way has not always been thought of.

Theme
Life crafter.

Meghan on Aug 17, 2012 Reply

This post is freaking awesome!!!

My life theme is to heal, release, breathe and love out loud.

xx

I’m fucking loving all of these.

Alexandra Franzen on Aug 21, 2012 Reply

Loved this! Thank you, as always, for being and doing You!
Inspired this post: http://www.lisasarick.com/2012/08/26/final-breath-battle-cry/

I actually came to tears doing this, as I realized that my life’s theme is learning to trust myself, and trust the universe. That no one should try to measure their own worth by someone else’s yardstick, and that includes yardsticks of income, professional achievement, and what you have “done” with your education. Control is an illusion. We are just along for the ride anyway, so let go and trust that your perfect, divine self can weather any storm.

Stephanie on Aug 27, 2012 Reply

This is actually my second time reading this post — only this time I had the nerve to answer the questions. I absolutely loved doing this exercise, and as soon as I synthesize my Life Theme, I shall share my thoughts on my blog.

Thank you so much for the eye-opening experiment!

I love you, Alexandra!!
You have such a talent.

My life’s theme: Understanding how to be content and grateful in all situations, trusting God, loving others & always being myself.

Thank you!!

I actually came to tears doing this, as I realized that my life’s theme is learning to trust myself, and trust the universe. That no one should try to measure their own worth by someone else’s yardstick, and that includes yardsticks of income, professional achievement, and what you have “done” with your education. Control is an illusion. We are just along for the ride anyway, so let go and trust that your perfect, divine self can weather any storm.

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